If a woman is disrespectful, whether unintentionally or on purpose, her husband will detect it. He will sense it in her mannerisms, tone, sexual rejection and her overall actions. This may lead him to shut down.
Withholding respect for one another is pervasive and becoming the norm. Whether in person, in small groups or online, I’ve witnessed women expose the growing angst in their hearts towards their husbands. And I get it.
It is difficult to love a man when he is unloving, rude, unkind, impatient, insensitive, or whatever you can fill in the blank with. But respect is not conditional and Ephesians 5:33 provides no caveat for the woman or the man: “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
We are instructed by God to respect our husbands unconditionally. Primarily because there is a lot riding on our marriage relationship: our children, the family unit and the perpetuation of a godly legacy to name a few (In saying that, if you are in a physically or verbally abusive situation seek professional help immediately). Unconditional respect requires the power of God. When we surrender to God in prayer, he begins to break our stubborn will, enabling us to be used by him to supernaturally love our husbands.
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