Married Sex: What Is Okay with God?

There is a lot of talk about sex, but some of the conjectures are just plain wrong. Here are a few lies that couples believe about sex. When you stop believing these lies, your sex life will become more mutually satisfying and sizzling. 

1. Sex is a hot date activity.

Sex is more than erotic gymnastics. Sex is not some performance standard to live up to. Sex is a RELATIONSHIP! Sex is a GIFT! Sex is a HOLY COVENANT. In our book, Red Hot Monogamy, we take a look at 5 reasons why God gave sex: 

Procreation 

“Be fruitful and increase in number.” (Genesis 1:22)

Recreation 

“And it came to pass, when he had been there a long time, that Abimelech king of the Philistines looked out at a window, and saw, and, behold, Isaac was sporting with Rebekah his wife.” (Genesis 26:8 KJV)

Reconnection 

“Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (1 Corinthians 7:5)

Rejuvenation 

“Strengthen me with raisins, refresh me with apples, for I am faint with love.” (Song of Solomon 2:5)

Proclamation 

“He who loves his wife loves himself.  After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—for we are members of his body.  For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.” (Ephesians 5:28–32) 

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