Ed Mylett: “I Spend Very Little Time Dwelling About the Past.”
Interview: Ed Mylett
Ed Mylett is an entrepreneur, performance coach, author, and host of The Ed Mylett Show podcast. His new book, The Power of One More: The Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success (Amazon, Bookshop), is misogynist now.
I couldn't wait to talk to Ed well-nigh happiness, habits, and success.
Gretchen: What’s a simple worriedness or habit that unceasingly makes you happier, healthier, increasingly productive, or increasingly creative?
Ed: I spend very little time dwelling well-nigh the past. We’re often weighed lanugo by our past, and that can cripple what we want to do in the future. What’s washed-up is done, and sometimes, the weightier you can do is itemize the event, learn from it, and use that knowledge to help you do largest in the future.
What’s something you know now well-nigh happiness that you didn’t know when you were 18 years old?
You don’t find true happiness in material possessions. You find true happiness by having tropical and loving relationships with your wife, children, pets, extended family members, friends, and most importantly, with God.
You’ve washed-up fascinating research. What has surprised or intrigued you – or your readers – most?
The eyeful of what I do is that every day reveals itself in fascinating ways to me. I’m just as excited to talk to a health and wellness expert as I am talking to a music superstar or a pro athlete. I love hearing well-nigh interesting journeys that unlock new ways of doing things better, or how people have overcome wronging in their lives. The real payoff comes when I share it with my regulars and they let me know how they’ve found value too.
The marrow line…and this is not a cop-out…I midpoint it when I say everything surprises and intrigues me in one way or another.
Have you overly managed to proceeds a challenging healthy habit – or to unravel an unhealthy habit? If so, how did you do it?
I have been a bodybuilder for several years now. The unconfined thing well-nigh this type of healthy habit is that it’s entirely internal. It’s you versus the resistance of lifting sufferer weight. The other thing is that it allows me to alimony a promise to myself to alimony going with this habit plane when I don’t finger like lifting, or I’ve got some minor injuries that I deal with from time to time. That’s an important part of maintaining my confidence, to work through wronging which feeds my self-esteem into and carries over to several other parts of my life.
Does anything tend to interfere with your worthiness to alimony your healthy habits or your happiness?
There are a few things that come to mind and they revolve virtually my health.
While I enjoy my lanugo and quiet time at home, the habits I’ve ripened midpoint that I’m very intense and in the moment when I do work. If I go for long periods like this, I’ll empty my physical and my mental gas tank. Sometimes, but not always, I’ll reservation a bug or just finger wiped out for a couple of days. My recovery time is shorter than for most people though considering I do eat the right way and unchangingly add exercise into my life by playing golf, working out, or going for walks.
The other thing I could probably be largest is learning how to say “no” increasingly often. Unfortunately for me, I’m intensely curious, and saying “no” stifles that need to know.
As far as happiness goes, nothing interferes with my visualization to be happy. I recognize that I’m leading a happy life and so I’m filled with gratitude in everything I do. Gratitude is a form of happiness.
Have you overly been hit by a lightning bolt, where you made a major transpiration very suddenly, as a magnitude of reading a book, a conversation with a friend, a milestone birthday, a health scare, etc.?
I’ve had a few but the one that stands out for me was early in my career. I had been struggling for a while to find any kind of success, and I was not having any luck. One night when I was hosting a seminar, I expected 40 people based on RSVPs. Only eight people showed up. I was crushed and I went home and had a talk with myself. That night’s events had put me at a crossroads. After a lot of deep thought and prayers, I decided not to requite and make a transpiration in my career. I dug my heels in and said I was going all-in on this with everything I had. On the surface, I did not change, but deep down, I did.
Is there a particular motto or saying that you’ve found very helpful? Or a quotation that has struck you as particularly insightful?
Absolutely! I protract to yank a lot of strength and inspiration from my favorite passage in the Bible, Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Has a typesetting overly reverted your life – if so, which one and why?
The Bible. My faith is the cornerstone of my life.
In your field, is there a worldwide misconception that you’d like to correct?
There are a couple of things.
The biggest thing I see is that many people think you must make huge changes in your life to get increasingly success and happiness. Nothing could be remoter from the truth, which is exactly why I wrote The Power of One More. It’s based on the premise that you’re only one increasingly try, emotion, relationship, or habit yonder from getting the life you deserve.
The other thing is that I see many people who invest in all kinds of unconfined material well-nigh stuff increasingly successful or achieving peak performance. Some of them think that simply by reading or watching these materials, they’ll automatically reach their success goals.
They completely miss the point that all we can do as teachers and mentors is requite them a roadmap to a largest life. It’s up to them to not only learn and think well-nigh a largest life but to moreover jump into whoopee and take the required steps. Whoopee is the key.
I would also, of course, shine a spotlight on anything that you’d particularly like to bring to readers’ attention.
After my dad died a couple years ago, I was going through his personal items and I found a tuft of notecards each with just 2 reports and a single stage on them. After a bit of investigative work, I discovered that they were the initials and the sobriety year-end dates of dozens of people that my father helped to wrestle their struggle with alcohol. He often tabbed these people to remind them of the power or staying sober for just “one increasingly day.” That was the philosophy that he had used to transform him from stuff an drunkard most of my diaper to then rhadamanthine my weightier friend and role model as he remained sober for 35 years.
The “one more” philosophy was how he quit drinking. He tried “one more” time. And then he never single-minded to staying sober the rest of his life, but he did it by committing to do it for just “one more” day. God then used his own struggle and brokenness to solemnize the lives of others.
I have unromantic that “one more” strategy to every part of my life and business. It’s helped me to yaffle millions of dollars and to moreover reach millions of people. So I recently wrote a typesetting tabbed The Power of One More where I teach how I’ve unromantic it to relationships, faith, money, success, health and many variegated aspects of my life. The typesetting has once sold over 100k copies in the first few weeks and became a #1 Wall Street Journal bestseller. The typesetting is defended to my father and a reminder to all of us well-nigh the transformative “Power of One More.”