Relationships

How to Discover True Friendship as Women

This last and final suggestion may be the most difficult one to take. I say this as someone who has taken many risks in developing meaningful friendships. Sometimes when we reach out to another woman there is a potential that we might experience rejection.

It does not feel good and we may naively assume that it will not be a factor in Christian relationships. The reality is, it is. When rejection happens it may be that God is protecting us from something, or it is simply bad timing. Whatever the reasoning is, the fear of rejection does not have to govern whether we extend ourselves to a potential friend again. If we allow rejection to govern our friendship risk, we may potentially shut ourselves off from meaningful relationships.

This may be why God reminded us in Proverbs 29:25, “Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe.” Our trust must not be in the women we reach out to. Our trust is ultimately in God to steer and take complete control of our relationships. By doing this we take the pressure off of ourselves to make friendships meaningful and leave that responsibility to God.


Kia Stephens is a wife and homeschooling mom of two who is passionate about encouraging the hearts of women. For this reason, she created The Father Swap Blog to help women exchange their father-wounds for the love of God the Father. Kia is also the founder of Entrusted Women, which she created to equip Christian women communicators of color. Kia's writing has been featured on Ann Voskamp's blog, Christianity Today, iBelieve.com, Beloved Women, Crosswalk and Incourage. When she is not writing or serving women, she enjoys spending quality time with her family and friends. You can connect with Kia at www.kiastephens.com.

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